Love hurts...Ands that's ok

If you are struggling in a romantic relationship, or can’t seem to figure out why things with your beau are not fun, exciting and happy 100% of the time (or at least 90% of the time), I have a podcast for you. I recently had the pleasure stumbling upon this “On Being” podcast with Krista Tippett in which she interviews Alain de Botton, author of the most-read New York Times article of 2016, enticingly entitled “Why You Will Marry The Wrong Person.”  In addition to having a name that rhymes, Alain de Botton lays down some validating truths about love. In the interview, de Botton talks about how most of us expect true love to be smooth-sailing and feel wonderful most of the time, but that holding onto this view of love can be harmful. de Botton explains how the best relationships involve conflict, fights, and drudgery. A focal point of de Botton’s view is one of compassion for the struggles of life. He says that the more generous we can be with our own and our partner’s flawed humanity, the better off we will be. I found his words to be quite comforting and I think you will like them too. Ps. Listen 'til the end of the interview for his refreshing take on flirting ;)